18.

May you...

Be gentle with yourself

Make space for the pain

Keep talking about them

Share memories with others, and hold them close to yourself when you need to

Let others help you

Know that you're not alone

Know that your grief is unique, but that there are others who know this kind of pain

Release all the "shoulds"

Spend your time how you choose

Know how strong you are

Cry as much as you need to

Know that the depth of your pain reflects the depth of your love

Feel their love for you

Remember the happy times

Be honest with others when it feels safe

Find things that make you happy

Take breaks

Honor them

Share your experience

Let it be as ugly as it needs to be

Shut out the world as you need, and reach out when it helps

Know there is no timeline

Release other's judgements of how you're "handling" things

Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself

Feel your feelings

Breath

Relax when possible

Be as soft and slow as you need to be - it's a fragile time and you matter

Know that you are not alone, and that there is love here too